7 Letters To My Daughters
“If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my journey, it’s this: you don’t have to be everything, but you can be anything you put your mind to. There is always a way.”
Once upon a time, there was a leader who believed that being at the top meant having to be lonely. She believed it was her personal duty to bear the heavy burden of leadership alone, and feared that asking for help would make her seem weak.
One day, she realized that true leadership was made up of both strength and collaboration, and that she didn't have to shoulder every burden alone. She began to reach out to those around her for advice and support, and found true strength in the bonds she formed.
By understanding the value of balance and collaboration, the leader discovered that having others by her side allowed her to rise even higher than before. No longer feeling alone at the top, she had newfound confidence in herself as a leader and built a team around her that could help reach even greater heights together.
We often perceive Leadership as a lonely position, with a lone isolated leader at the top, forced to make difficult decisions on their own. Many times, from well meaning people, have heard the phrase- “It’s Lonely at the Top”. I’ve listened, and for some time believed it to be true, but something about that phrase never felt right. Deep inside I did not believe this had to be the case.
Leadership can be fulfilling and successful when team dynamics are strong, communication is effective, and trust is established. This didn’t come to me as clouds parting and a great epiphany being delivered. It came through a lot of hard work, mistakes, observations, reflections, lots of late nights, and a strong of aha! moments.
Many first-time C level executive’s are at risk of feeling isolated and alone at the top, which can affect their job performance. It's important for leaders to find ways to break from the isolation and loneliness that can come with the role.
Showing that you are there and available for them will help build trust and connection. Collaborating with others is also essential; no leader operates alone, so seeking out advice from those around you can help make sure you're making informed decisions.
Another great way to connect with them on a deeper level is by a close coaching relationship. In order to ensure team cohesion and synergy, it is essential for leaders to build a connection with team members through empathy. This involves putting yourself in team member's shoes, understanding their needs and concerns, being tactful in communicating expectations, and offering support whenever possible. By taking the time to cultivate relationships on an individual level, team morale will be improved which will ultimately lead to increased productivity.
Leaders must also provide clear direction and expectations for team members:
This includes setting realistic timelines and achievable goals. This will ensure team members stay focused and motivated throughout the duration of the project. Additionally, it is important to recognize team member's contributions and successes. Doing so will create a positive work atmosphere where team members are not only encouraged but also feel valued, increasing team morale as well as productivity.
It's also important for leaders to have someone they can confide in:
Someone who understands what it's like to lead people and who can provide emotional support when needed. Having a confidant or mentor outside of work can help reduce feelings of loneliness and isolation that come with the job.
Having a team of advisors or mentors can also be beneficial in keeping team dynamics strong and communication effective. These advisors or mentors can provide an outside perspective that may be helpful in solving certain problems the team is facing. This can help alleviate some of the pressure placed on leaders by providing an additional source of guidance and support when making difficult decisions.
Finally, leaders need to take care of themselves emotionally and physically in order to stay healthy and productive in their roles. Taking regular breaks, engaging in activities that bring joy, and setting boundaries between work life and home life are all important steps in avoiding burnout or feeling overwhelmed by the demands of leadership.
Leadership doesn't have to be lonely at the top if you take steps to create meaningful connections with your team members, find an outside confidant or mentor, and prioritize your own wellbeing. With these strategies in place, you'll be able to lead effectively without sacrificing your mental health or happiness along the way.